Wait - are we celebrating divorce now?
I contend that we should. You drink champagne on the way in, I encourage you to drink champagne on the way out!
Is divorce the right decision for everyone? Of course not. And, I am a believer in marriage. I'd like to be married again someday (though I'll choose more wisely next time).
But if you are divorced or divorcing, then I say congratulations! I am sorry for your pain, I wish you love, light and healing ... but I also offer you congratulations.
Change is scary, but life happens for us. And so once the healing has happened, maybe, just maybe, this will be the best thing ever. All you have to do is reframe your thinking, latch onto that inner optimism and seek out the opportunities.
And that’s where the celebration comes in.
Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process, but it is also just the first step on a path toward growth and new beginnings. Feel your feelings, sit with them. Acknowledge the pain and challenges that come with the end of a relationship. But then refocus on the potential.
If your marriage is happy, then I am so happy for you. And I celebrate you too!
But not every marriage is meant to last forever, and that's okay. In fact, staying in a toxic or unhappy marriage can often do more harm than good. By ending a relationship that no longer serves you, you are taking control of your life and prioritizing your own happiness.
So yes, let's celebrate divorces and those divorcees. You are strong, you are resilient, and you have an infinite supply of opportunities ahead!
Want to learn about my two marriages and divorces, including one (now ex) husband who during our marriage was activey planning a wedding to another woman halfway around the world? Look for my new book coming this fall!